The addition of toys can advance the simplest sex positions.
Insider reports, “incorporating sex toys in the bedroom spices things up and takes pleasure up a notch.”
Traditional sex is great, but if you’re not involving toys into your sex life, you’re missing out on different types of orgasms. From butt plugs to clitoral vibrators, here are seven sex therapist-recommended positions, which Insider shares, that incorporate sex toys to increase pleasure possibilities.
1. Missionary
To escalate missionary sex out of “vanilla” territory, try adding a cock ring. While the partner receiving lies flat on their back, the partner penetrating, wearing a vibrating cock ring, faces them on top and enters.
“This added vibration feels amazing for both partners,” says Melinda DeSeta, a sexologist and certified sex therapist at Insight Counseling Center.
According to Insider, “On top of the new sensations, as an added bonus, cock rings may help the penetrating partner last longer before having an orgasm since it restricts blood flow. DeSeta says a cock ring should never hurt or make the penis discolored. These are signs that the cock ring is too small.”
Note: a bit of lubricant may help in getting the cock ring on comfortably.
But if the penetrating partner doesn’t want a cock ring, there’s another toy to add into this simple equation: either partner can use a vibrator on the clitoris, which “can be super helpful since most vagina-owners need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm,” says Julia Simone Fogelson, a certified sex therapist in private practice.
2. Reverse cowgirl
In reverse cowgirl position, the partner receiving penetration is in control, whilst providing the penetrating partner with an amazing view from behind. Here’s how it’s normally done:
The receiving partner gets on top of the penetrating partner, who lies flat on the their back. The receiving partner straddles the penetrating partner facing away from them in a kneeling position. Once penetrated, the receiving partner can move back and forth or up and down with the penetrating partner inside of them.
While this position can be great fun on its own, it’s also worth noting that it gives the penetrating partner easy access to their partner’s butt, allowing easy insertion of a butt plug.
To enhance reverse cowgirl, try adding some anal play: “the nerve endings in the anus can bring on lots of pleasure,” says DeSeta.
Start slow, use plenty of lube and stop if there’s any pain, DeSeta advises. And remember to only use toys in the anus that have a flared base to eliminate the risk of them getting lost inside of you.
3. Cowgirl
The regular cowgirl position, like the reverse, allows the receiving partner control of the speed and depth of their penetration.
The partner receiving straddles the penetrating partner while facing forward in a kneeling position. Once penetrated, the receiving partner can move back and forth or up and down with the penetrating partner inside of them.
Like missionary, this position can benefit from the addition of a vibratng cock ring or a vibrator for the clitoris, says Courtney Padjen, a certified sex therapist and the owner and director of the Centre for Sexual Wellness.
“In this position, the partner on top will get some clitoral stimulation from simply being on top and grinding, but using a vibrator on the clitoris can increase chances of orgasming — or you can even use the vibrator on the nipples, too,” says Padjen.
4. Doggy style
Doggy style is a rear entry position which allows for G-spot stimulation and deep penetration. The penetrating partner gets behind the partner receiving, who’s on all fours, and kneeling, the penetrating partner enters.
While this position famously satisfies the G-spot, it lacks clitoral stimulation.
“To show the clitoris some love, DeSeta suggests that the penetrating partner reach around and use a vibrator on their partner’s clitoris. A long, flexible vibrator is likely the easiest to use here,” says Insider.
Fogelson says in addition to a clitoral vibrator, you could also use a butt plug, as anal play can intensify the receiving partner’s orgasm.
“The penetrating partner can either insert the plug during foreplay or while the receiver is on their hands and knees in the doggy style position,” Fogelson says. “Again, use a toy that has a flared base, go slow and use a lot of lube.”
5. Spooning
The spooning sex position is a cozy skin-to-skin contact position which promotes intimacy. The penetrating partner lies on their side, assuming the “big spoon” in the cuddling position, while the receiving partner, also on their side and facing away from their partner, lies in a “little spoon” position. The penetrating partner enters the receiving partner from behind.
This position is great for vaginal penetration, but it doesn’t stimulate the clitoris, Padjen says. Using sex toys on the clitoris increases a vagina-having person’s chance of an orgasm.
Padjen says, “You can try a finger vibrator, for example, worn by either partner, depending on if the receiving partner enjoys an element of surprise or would prefer to be the one in control. Or, if the receiving partner likes the feeling of toys that use more of a suction sensation on the clitoris, you can use this instead of a typical vibrator. Since you need to hold these toys a little bit more precisely on the clitoris to maintain the suction, these toys are best for spooning with slower deep thrusts.”
6. Pretzel dip
The pretzel dip is a fun sex position that’s easier to accomplish than it sounds: the receiving partner, lying on their side, lifts their top leg to provide space for penetration. The penetrating partner then kneeling and straddling the bottom leg, enters. The receiving partner wraps their top leg around the penetrating partner’s waist to stabilize the position, overall allowing for a sideways entry unlike any other.
This is a great position if you and your partner want to try something different. It feels almost like a rear-entry, but more intimate, since you’re both facing each other.
“The clitoris might get some stimulation in this position to begin with –– but to kick it up a notch,” DeSeta suggests, “add an easy-to-use lay-on clitoral vibrator that you can simply leave placed on the region, or one partner can help hold it in place.”
7. Cunnilingus with a toy
Whether engaging in oral sex to warm up or as the main event, the addition of toys is never a bad idea. Generally, in oral sex, the receiving partner, gets in a position which provides their partner’s mouth access to their genitals, such as lying flat with their legs spread open. Using their mouth, the giver pleasures their partner’s genitals.
While oral sex in and of itself can be amazing, for something a little spicier, Fogelson says that “the giver can insert a dildo or another penetrative device into their partner’s vagina while continuing to use their mouth on the external genitalia. This allows the receiver to experience a feeling of fullness that they wouldn’t get with oral alone.”
In the end
Sex toys can level up a couple’s sex life by increasing novelty, intimacy and the likelihood of orgasms.
“When using toys in bed,” Fogelson recommends “keeping the line of communication open –– checking in with your partner to make sure the toy feels great and isn’t causing any discomfort. If one particular toy or type of toy doesn’t work for you, there’s no shortage of others to try.”
Read the original Insider article here.
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